Ok, I'm ready! You're going to ask, 'what does one thing have to do with the other?" Well, it has plenty to do with it. Don't forget, as a wrestler, you have developed a definite character in the ring and out of the ring, people who see you, identify with this character. If you're a Heel, that's one thing, if a 'Baby Face, then it's another.

I've worked Heel for years and as I've stated in my past articles have developed a pretty hard look for myself. I also always seem to play the tough guy or bad guy in films or the aggressive heavy in commercials. This is what people see me as and at first glance scares the crap out of them. I make a 'special' effort not to show that side in public. I always go overboard to be nice and courteous to people so that they walk away saying, 'what a nice guy'! "You'd never know it by his look.'

Well, parenting falls into that category very well. I have 3 kids, two boys and a girl. The boys are older now, Adam 22 , Shane 20 and Sami my daughter is 10. As they were growing up they were very impressionable as are most kids. They saw me in the ring, on TV and as I said, I was always the bad guy. People would ask them, 'is your Dad like that at home?" Well, I'm not!

I make a point of being a very loving Dad and I do housework!!! Yep, it's not beneath me to wash windows, vacuum, laundry, dishes (every night) clean bathrooms, etc. Plus sit and watch TV with my kids, arm and arm. I tell all of them at least a dozen times a day, how much they mean to me and how much I love them. I want them to see the sensitive side so that they grow up well balanced. Shane at 20, still give me a hug and kiss every night before bed and when he gets up in the morning.

It's the same with relatives. They see this character bigger than life and at family functions, I make an effort to help clear the table and help in the kitchen. It brings a family closer together and they respect both sides of you.

I've never had discipline problems with my kids. All of them have been really great to be around. Being in this business has allowed me time to spend on a daily basis with all of them. I Take them out to the Mall, sit with them and talk and if there is ever a problem, they come to me. I've rarely if ever have had to raise my voice. Not because they are scared of me as some think, but because they know that I will listen to every word and give them good positive feed back. I give them options on how to handle situations that arise and then let them pick the best one.

I also use some Wrestling analogy when I explain things, such as ring psychology. In life, being logical works and using psychology works. Don't do something without good reason and think of the repercussion. You can apply that towards almost anything. Even if a person you are dealing with isn't logical, it doesn't matter, cause you will be.

So, if you have a Wrestling character that is a pretty hard heel, then make every effort to be the opposite at home. If you're a 'baby face' then you are already over at home, but some day, you'll make the transition to 'heel'.

In a time like now when worlds are colliding, it's important to keep family tight and share the love. But when my kid's friends run up to them and tell them that they saw their Dad on TV and he's scary, they can just smile back and say," yeah, but I know the real him!"